We live in a society were women willingly submit to men, we obey, we allow the father figure to manage our lives for security & stability, we developed a need for protection by the male from the male, the workforce is male dominant, those who set up the rules are males, women keep silent out of respect and because of the precedence of the family unit in our priorities, but it turns to ownership that extends to how we should live and how to mold our lives to fit into our roles.
You know how I picture women in our society; we are like butterflies in a glass enclosure where we have limited fields to venture in, and are brought to think that this garden we have is paradise, thats why we are always thankful that we have a system to rely on regardless of how much it eats from our individuality. Thats why women obsess with things like " virginity being a family concern, marriage race, what if he divorced me, what if he married a second one, turn a blind eye to him cheating, quit the job to bring up kids, he yells at me, he started beating me.." you know the rest of the record.
you always need to satisfy the society & the "him" in the equation because you depend on him. you are never ever independent or learned to stand alone. If its not him, then its the family, you never own your space, something for yourself , when have you really thought of yourself alone, you know you can't ignore how much your family and society play a role in most if not all the decisions you make. you are either a sister, a daughter, a girlfriend, a wife, a mother "first". you were never "you" first before being any of those roles and think of about all your behaviors and how it serves these roles. where is you?
Today, I wont talk about the cases where murdered women were proven innocent, this is an evident proof of a failure of the juridical system. when a woman whether guilty or not regardless of what guilty means, is killed and the killer gets away, this means I mean nothing to the system that I subscribe to and yeah I am less than a man in this case.
in Christianity it is written: " Do Not Kill " & in Islam you are not to kill a woman who commits adultery, not you, not by yourself without witnesses & this is exactly why there are courts. The raging reaction and the momentary insanity is bullshit & saying its a tradition is even more bullshit.