kids have energy. parents work to five pm most of the time, get home tired, they provide money to send kids to school. what do kids do after school? is the "7arra" a healthy place for kids?????
the most common answer is they do their homeworks and watch TV.. yupp. and? what do kids in Jordan do beside studying? whats the culture of raising children here at homes? what do we instill in kids at home to give them skills and orientation??? im not talking about manners and religion. im talking about the ENERGY a child possess.
i have a neighbor, a female 13 years old, who has a mobile sim card without the knowledge of her parents, who at an earlier age used to be a member in the Sports City and a member of the swimming team, fit with a decent mind with a follow up from her mother, she and her three best friends now have boyfriends which is a phase every school girl goes through.
One of her friends had her mom late to pick her up from the final exam today so i ended up talking to her for couple of hours while watching a DVD, as i was talking and listening to her, here are some points i found out..
no kid will study on regular basis and actually like or be related to the knowledge he is taught through Tawjihi system without a parental supervision to provide at least someone to really put the effort of instilling what knowledge and learning are, kids can finish their homeworks and excel in their studies if they did 45 min - 1 hour of review a day. this is not the issue i want to talk about.
what i was looking for is where are their thoughts, what fills up their heads, especially those girls..
now these girls come up to me and update me with what happens with their boyfriends and they are in the phase of the forever and ever, nails, fashion, cinema, boys. 8th graders.. they get to go out with their friends once a week, mostly Thursday, but what about the rest of the week? what do they do?
i have known them since they were 6 and 7 years old, now, i was looking at their heads, i didnt see but fairy marriage dreams. one of them said "i dont mind getting engaged and getting my parents officially knowing about my relationship on Tawjihi." the second feels her mom is an authoritarian for nagging to maintain a fit shape within +-2 kilos range, good grades and pushing her towards reading which is good but her mind just floats around when her friends are having totally different interests. the third is obsessed with the 7arra, TV, loves animals, walks around with her tawjihi sister who goes to see her boyfriend too, a riot at school with bad bad grades, attitude and who couldnt care less. i dont think she wants to do college. i tried teaching her math once, it was a disaster, she is not open to learning because she just dont want to listen.
The first had her introduction to what sex is in the 7th grade from her uncle who failed tawjihi. she dated a cousin for a while who used language which i just couldnt believe she knew, at a time of her life, at the 6th grade, she used to talk to a 23 years old. i freaked out! Horton hears a who is something she wont watch, she watches Noor, NCSI, LOST, Fashion House, Las Vegas. High School Musical. etc etc. you got the picture...
they used to play sports now they dont, either because their parents dont let them in the pool for their age or they can't either afford club fees which are relatively high or wont have time to do the drives back and forth, same for most of the families and this is just sports.. i was thinking what does the word pastime or hobby mean for a kid who is not an infant and not a 16 years old teen?
i was asking those girls, don't you like to be part of a sports team, learn to play a music instrument, act, write, sing?!!!!! what do you like????? how do you like to spend your time??
i didnt find answers. she only said, she wants to participate in a gym on machines subscription to fix her belly and thighs.. machines! 13 years old. what happened to OUTDOORS ACTIVITIES KIDS?
i asked her how much you spend thinking about your boyfriend??? she said all day.. i asked her how often you study,, she said, not everyday... but i like reading stories.
we dont have any places dedicated to developing thought in a happy and fun way to kids. i asked her what do you wanna do in college, what stream will you take at school?
she said she hates math, she likes english class, but she will study IT stream Tawjihi because its the easiest... her first answer was i will study computer science, then i asked do you like computers.... she said no!
we need places that allow school kids from different school to meet in an environment that enhances their thinking and doesn't limit them to dating only because since they are not allowed, they will want it more .. especially for schools that are only male, only female. kids need to use their energies, not spend it walking in the 7arra. give them that so they can focus on who they really are and discover themselves.