it is said " المال والبنون زينة الحياة الدنيا "
so lets go back a bit
it says " zeena" which means "joy" but it is not a must, conceiving children is not a must!
no its not.
its not a duty
Do you understand that??
So for anyone who didn't get any children yet, if you are not gonna take care of them and understand that you have an enormous role in their life.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO
its not an accessory for marriage!! you don't have to have kids if you don't know what kind of responsibility they come with
and for anyone who got married just to conceive kids or because its time or because you are so bored.
screw your selfishness!!
Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
Friday, 7 November 2008
Sunday, 17 August 2008
Saturday, 29 March 2008
Entertain yourself with this thought
in the middle ages, long long time ago, suppose you were a woman, who was born and raised as a christian, read the bible, loves Jesus, goes to church every sunday and before she got married, her father sat with her and told her, you are not a christian, you are a jew, we didnt tell you when you were a child because you would not keep a secret, we are secret jews, we were the new christians i.e the newly converted, back then women were not allowed to read Hebrew, men were only allowed to learn and attend the synogogue, and today you will be marrying a secret jew.
after marriage, she no longer allowed to the church, she can't really understand her new faith. what do you think happened to her belief system???
if you were her, what would you do?
PS: questions are based on The Coffee Trader by David Liss.
after marriage, she no longer allowed to the church, she can't really understand her new faith. what do you think happened to her belief system???
if you were her, what would you do?
PS: questions are based on The Coffee Trader by David Liss.
Wednesday, 28 November 2007
Monday, 19 November 2007
ON POINTLESSNESS OF PPL!!! STOP DEPRESSING YOURSELF
the faculty is almost empty,, im sitting at the chemical engineering department,, masters students are sitting for tests and i have no idea why i am here.
Hey Tala.. keefek? Keef mashroo3ek?
smi3ty imti7an il kafa2a bi 12/12?
the deadline for the documentation is in 20/12, did you start on that?
meen your supervising Dr.?
oh, whats your project about?
are you ok?
Ishtaghal willa lissa?
I hear this more than 7 times a day at school,,, i truly avoid these questions now giving minimal answers and this is exactly why im writing about it now, because... i am just tired.
i dont want to think farther than what i have to do tomorrow.
Hey Tala.. keefek? Keef mashroo3ek?
smi3ty imti7an il kafa2a bi 12/12?
the deadline for the documentation is in 20/12, did you start on that?
meen your supervising Dr.?
oh, whats your project about?
are you ok?
Ishtaghal willa lissa?
I hear this more than 7 times a day at school,,, i truly avoid these questions now giving minimal answers and this is exactly why im writing about it now, because... i am just tired.
i dont want to think farther than what i have to do tomorrow.
Wednesday, 24 October 2007
me at school with no access to you tube, but my friend forwarded this couple of days ago, thought i'd share it coz its funny and i have been singing it all day,, i dont know how recent it is, but there you go... HEHEHEHE
some wise people said (-_-) ..
1- An idea is not responsible for the people who believe in it.
100% sa7! this should be understood, how much we hold to our ideas and believe them and act upon them is up to us. believing is beautiful. its like chocolate cake yummy icing :)
2- Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit
sa7 kaman! zaman i used to think that we are what we think we are, then i evolved to we are what we do because its a real translation to what we think we are,, now its what we repeatedly do.. valid too in order to be progressive but i hate routine,, so i just want to do repeatedly what makes things ok. i dont like excellence. i love imperfections coz they are real.
3- you never know unless you try
try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try xD try try try try try try try try try try try try try
try try try try try try try try try try try try (^^) try try try try try try try try :D try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try ;P
some wise people said (-_-) ..
1- An idea is not responsible for the people who believe in it.
100% sa7! this should be understood, how much we hold to our ideas and believe them and act upon them is up to us. believing is beautiful. its like chocolate cake yummy icing :)
2- Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit
sa7 kaman! zaman i used to think that we are what we think we are, then i evolved to we are what we do because its a real translation to what we think we are,, now its what we repeatedly do.. valid too in order to be progressive but i hate routine,, so i just want to do repeatedly what makes things ok. i dont like excellence. i love imperfections coz they are real.
3- you never know unless you try
try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try xD try try try try try try try try try try try try try
try try try try try try try try try try try try (^^) try try try try try try try try :D try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try try ;P
Friday, 7 September 2007
Aces
people choose to be happy
i couldn't agree more to that,, if only it was that controlable.
i just dont want tomorrow to come, i wish i was a witch that can freeze time and run away.
i couldn't agree more to that,, if only it was that controlable.
i just dont want tomorrow to come, i wish i was a witch that can freeze time and run away.
Thursday, 6 September 2007
Eye Access Cues
* eyes up and to your left. This is when something you have seen before and hence you remembered it -- visual remembered (VR).
* eyes up and to your right. This is a when something that I assume you have not seen before and hence you constructed this picture - visual constructed (VC).
* eyes on the horizontal plane to your left. This is when something you have heard before - auditory remembered (AR).
* eyes on the horizontal plane to your right. This is something you have not heard before - auditory constructed (AC).
* eyes down and to the left. When its about your self talk - auditory digital (Ad).
* eyes down and to the right. This is when you talk about your feelings- kinesthetic (K).
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Men & Ego
i was talking to a friend today, and we agreed on something, in each and every male's head, he believes that he is the closest thing to perfection in his own way or its by default in his construction,,, bifham bi kul ishi o houeh afkham wa7ad bil 3alam o ma 7ada bihfam addo!
in simpler words, men are about EGO and No-one-could-get-any-better-in-problem solving.
in simpler words, men are about EGO and No-one-could-get-any-better-in-problem solving.
Monday, 25 June 2007
at the Bottom of Anything Comes Basics: Mental Health
The fast rate of change in the pace of life; where has it put you? are you comfortable with it? do you really understand it and can you adapt ?
Today is not like 2, 5, 10 years ago, connecting the dots is a must, we no longer live alone, we no longer have the same standards, the same thoughts, the same taste. your needs and dreams are not protected, well, its pretty much scary for anyone, it makes you feel kind of alone, it should have caused you to become insecure in an aspect or another in your life, i am for myself.
and these changes in the way we live left us with needs unmet, caused the nations insecurities due to problems in acceptance, adaptation, and understanding, it varies in levels from one person to another, but it naturally occurs due to anxiety and internal fear from uncertainty that is in its basic form uncontrollable.
Un-nourished human needs cause anxiety, depression, and addiction, emotional disturbance that is, you can't measure it unless you are aware of yourself, so its always good to learn about your basic needs and try to spot what has been going wrong if you felt insecure because no one would fully understand what's going inside you and it reflects on your performance.
we all know the most basic needs such as food, shelter, water there are other basic needs as much important and less focused on. as a living being this is what you need before anything else. here is the check list:
the need to give and receive attention; similar for the appetite for food, when deprived of human contact for long periods of time, the mental health suffers massively as much as your body suffers. when not met, you seek it in an inappropriate ways. when you have it fulfilled, you can focus better.
taking care of the mind-body connection; every motion, mood and thought is expressed in the language of the biochemistry within our bodies. how you take care of your body corresponds directly to your psychological well being. food amount, food quality, food regularity, sleep amount, exercise amount are all factors that you should seek to balance to have a sound mind and body.
the need for meaning, purpose and goals; conceiving new ideas and bringing into being; this is how we reached where we are now, goals don't have to be huge, writing something you always wanted, creating a garden, learning a sport, achieving promotion at work, helping other people, supporting others pays of beyond the value of what you have done.
the need for a connection to something greater than ourselves; the feeling that we are part of a more significant whole rather than just ourselves is important for underlying well being and confidence, we feel happier when we connect with people with the same perceptions, when we look up to something. religion, nature, political party, or a group of light minded friends.
the need for creativity and stimulation; its very basic and different people need it in different levels, when we stretch creatively we feel healthier and happier, people develop imagination in order to create vision of how things would be, this creative element within you clearly links to your need of purpose and goals, you don't have to make a work of art to be creative, you can rearrange your room, redesign your garden, learn something new, putting something of yourself into what you do
the need for intimacy and connection it is wonderful to feel there is at least one person who really knows us for who we are, someone you can totally relax with and just be yourself, this could be a partner, a friend or family, feelings increase when we are able to relax with other people.
the need for a sense of control when we can't tolerate uncertainty, ability to regain control in a situation when we can't control external factors, such as getting a job or not, or whether someone likes you.
the info is from a session in an audio course called the self confidence trainer from uncommon knowledge, its very interesting, the website has lots of nice articles in self help and psychology if you find interest in these stuff.
Today is not like 2, 5, 10 years ago, connecting the dots is a must, we no longer live alone, we no longer have the same standards, the same thoughts, the same taste. your needs and dreams are not protected, well, its pretty much scary for anyone, it makes you feel kind of alone, it should have caused you to become insecure in an aspect or another in your life, i am for myself.
and these changes in the way we live left us with needs unmet, caused the nations insecurities due to problems in acceptance, adaptation, and understanding, it varies in levels from one person to another, but it naturally occurs due to anxiety and internal fear from uncertainty that is in its basic form uncontrollable.
Un-nourished human needs cause anxiety, depression, and addiction, emotional disturbance that is, you can't measure it unless you are aware of yourself, so its always good to learn about your basic needs and try to spot what has been going wrong if you felt insecure because no one would fully understand what's going inside you and it reflects on your performance.
we all know the most basic needs such as food, shelter, water there are other basic needs as much important and less focused on. as a living being this is what you need before anything else. here is the check list:
the need to give and receive attention; similar for the appetite for food, when deprived of human contact for long periods of time, the mental health suffers massively as much as your body suffers. when not met, you seek it in an inappropriate ways. when you have it fulfilled, you can focus better.
taking care of the mind-body connection; every motion, mood and thought is expressed in the language of the biochemistry within our bodies. how you take care of your body corresponds directly to your psychological well being. food amount, food quality, food regularity, sleep amount, exercise amount are all factors that you should seek to balance to have a sound mind and body.
the need for meaning, purpose and goals; conceiving new ideas and bringing into being; this is how we reached where we are now, goals don't have to be huge, writing something you always wanted, creating a garden, learning a sport, achieving promotion at work, helping other people, supporting others pays of beyond the value of what you have done.
the need for a connection to something greater than ourselves; the feeling that we are part of a more significant whole rather than just ourselves is important for underlying well being and confidence, we feel happier when we connect with people with the same perceptions, when we look up to something. religion, nature, political party, or a group of light minded friends.
the need for creativity and stimulation; its very basic and different people need it in different levels, when we stretch creatively we feel healthier and happier, people develop imagination in order to create vision of how things would be, this creative element within you clearly links to your need of purpose and goals, you don't have to make a work of art to be creative, you can rearrange your room, redesign your garden, learn something new, putting something of yourself into what you do
the need for intimacy and connection it is wonderful to feel there is at least one person who really knows us for who we are, someone you can totally relax with and just be yourself, this could be a partner, a friend or family, feelings increase when we are able to relax with other people.
the need for a sense of control when we can't tolerate uncertainty, ability to regain control in a situation when we can't control external factors, such as getting a job or not, or whether someone likes you.
the info is from a session in an audio course called the self confidence trainer from uncommon knowledge, its very interesting, the website has lots of nice articles in self help and psychology if you find interest in these stuff.
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